Rooey's Excellent Vermont Adventure

The knot that lived in my chest for months disappeared the moment we saw the “Welcome to Vermont” flanked by a pillow of Green Mountains behind it.

 

Most of us have a happy place when we travel – a destination that we’ve returned to for years or perhaps a new one discovered under the restrictions of pandemic travel. Mine is Vermont.

 

Post college one of my closest friends and her boyfriend moved to the Warren Valley in Vermont. This hamlet in the northern part of central VT was what my life wasn’t – uncrowded, quiet and happily affordable. Their goals in life were to ski and make art to fund their Adjacent to Sugarbush and close to the Mad River Glen resort. The area was filled with hippies, city transplants and surrounded by green velvet mountains staring majestically at the sky above. We could go for hikes along the river, jumping from rock to rock and sink down into an ice-cold swimming hole when it got too hot. We swam across Blueberry Lake to keep fit – the perfect anecdote to the hangover from the night before, ski through the winter and lose ourselves in the deep reds, golds and greens of foliage season. For someone who lived in a miniscule walk-up studio in Manhattan it was paradise.

 

After a rough pandemic 18 months I packed a bag, put my dog Roo into the back of my Subaru Forrester and headed north. We stopped half a dozen times during the 11 hour drive north from the Washington, DC metro area past industrial Baltimore, skirting Manhattan and its traffic, through Connecticut tempted by signs for Mystic Seaport, more industry in Springfield, MA, and finally the Putney, VT General Store with the best vegan sandwich I had ever tasted. Spinach, sprouts, avocado, grated carrots, pickled veggies sparked by garlicky tahini with a hint of hummus. The bread was still warm.

 

I slept through all four nights which I had not done in months and through the crowing of the early morning roosters.

 

My pandemic pup Roo edging closer to two years-old is a black labradoodle with the smarts of a poodle and the endless love and charm of a black lab. She gets car sick and to her credit only threw up once. Her glazed over expression vanished when we got to the little yellow farmhouse on the side of the road halfway between Randolph and Northfield in central, rural VT. The road was a blizzard of curves but the lushness of the foliage and the hints of red maples at the top of the mountain made up for it. The few people I saw looked like they belonged on the mountain with long graying beards, ponytails and work shirts in the late summer cool-off. No it’s not just on the travel posters.

 

We did not stay in Warren because little was available and what was too pricey, so I found a little yellow farmhouse on Airbnb for $135 per night and a quick drive over the Roxbury Gap Road to the Warren. Except that the Warren Mountain Road as it is called on the other side was closed for three weeks the trip around took a full hour so we made it once and explored the area around East Granville, our official home.

 

Most people come to Vermont to hike but with a knee anxiously awaiting replacement and another with a torn meniscus this was going to be a different way to explore. We checked out Randolph and walked around the half dozen blocks of town, pausing to wonder at the obligatory white spired church at the centers of town. Our connection to Randolph was forged by two coffee shops, the Huggable Mug Café with a to die for blueberry muffin and a cappuccino reminiscent of Italy. Only the servers wore masks but there was plenty of room for social distancing. Its main competition is the Carrier Roasting Co. whose beans are roasted daily and were had the subtle yet uplifting flavor that comes from it. After endless on the road it felt like a divine gift.

 

Did I mention that the going price for a first class cappuccino was $2.75. I paid $5.00 for a Starbucks cold brew at a New Jersey rest stop.

 

We only made it to Warren once, and it had become a genuine tourist trap. The town was still charming with its stately homes and white picket fences but The Warren Store, my favorite food and wine store in Vermont, had gone commercial. The cool selection of ski and summer gear designed for women in incredible shape was gone and replaced by boxy older women’s apparel with a varied sense of style. The jewelry was no longer interesting, and local craftspeople’s wares were gone. The Farmer’s Market, which only rivalled the one in Burlington an hour away, had limited hours, everyone was completely masked and you had to wait in line outside because of social distancing. Skipped that.

 

But sitting on a deck over the rollicking river with the sun unbothered by clouds was worth it. The sandwiches and wraps are liberal with hot sauce that I no longer can eat so I chose the Vermonter Sandwich, everything made or grown locally from the cheddar to the bacon to the caramelized onions and the freshest of grilled white bread. In nearby Waitsfield a number of stores were gone, particularly in the plaza that had the best Creemies around. Vermont is a state with more cows than people and the ice cream is likely the best ever. Roo and I walked a trail near river beaches with a handful of sunburned kids alternating between the sand and water for about a mile and a half an overhang of cooling trees.

 

Due north of East Granville is a town of 2100 called Northfield, VT. It . The home of Norwich University it combines a gritty, industrial feel with students and faculty. A trip to Northfield is worth the Maple Cremees, made from you guessed it VT maple syrup. A tangy sweetness explodes at the first lick of a soft cone and offers the perfect complement to a warm summer’s day.

Travel during the pandemic put a wrench in the need to go to restaurants, many of which were only open a handful of days and subject to change due to Covid so I bought food from the roadside markets and cooked.

The Little Yellow Farm House at Strickland Farm, which has housed six generations of one family, and the noises in the basement, which the Airbnb host said it was an overeager dehumidifier but my imagination ran wild with all that could really bedownthere. Whether you liked it or did not was a clear demonstration of the kind of traveler you are. I did not expect luxury and was right not to. Everything was old –the appliances required going back 30 years to the top sellers of the day and the washer dryer was missing a handle but could be pulled on by what was under it. If like me you remember those appliances, you’ll find it very comforting. The kitchen was a little understocked with just salt and pepper, but the homey touches made up for it with baked that morning homemade bread, just laid eggs and VT butter a tribute to its cows.

The porch off my bedroom offered a morning view of gold and orange fields guarded by mountains. The beds were comfy and blankets plentiful.  Did I mention that it was $135 per night?

 The only drawback to the house its location, directly on a road that few people used but those that did owned it racing by. Roo was stuck on her leash and walked up and down our country road fields of wildflowers and a hustling stream. Even though my four legged companion doesn’t speak human I talk to her like a small child in the hope that she’ll remember some of what I said. I told Roo the black and white pinto across the way was her horse and the roosters who stopped spreading out through the parking lot after the first time they saw the dog were Rooey’s Roosters.

 On our last day we found Doggie Nirvana. I was looking up VT dog parks but none of them seemed any different than those at home, although they appeared more spacious in the photos. I read about Hubbard Park in Montpelier which didn’t offer much information and I found out why when we got there. After 10 minutes of walking the not very happy leashed Roo we met a woman with one of those giant breeds of dog still in its puppyhood. She said it was an off-leash park, which means the dogs own the park. Their owners are just the folks who bring the dogs and take them home. The joy from the four-legged creatures “unleashed” miraculous. This was actual freedom.

We left our little yellow house sadly, sacrificing a pink Lululemon sweatshirt, and the freshly roasted coffee beans. On to our Manhattan escapee family in the Catskill Mountains.

If you want to go some place where everything is easy and the mountains inspire go to Vermont.

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Limping Around Lisbon

With an arthritic right knee and a torn meniscus on the left, covered by a rather massive brace, I realize this will be a different trip than others. Eat, drink, museums, views, churches and cabs. Fortunately all of them are so cheap – a full meal in a good restaurant with wine is $25 and the Portuguese never tip more than 10 percent so I decide to honor that. I can limp, eat and take cabs up the hill where I am staying.

I finished my memoir from a now 40 year-old who worked in the Obama White House during afternoon siesta. She managed to write about his presidency in a way that was funny and charming and revealed Obama’s personality without giving too much away. Time to go explore.

After more than a decade of not traveling abroad except for a big European city tour the year both kids graduated, then 18 months of back and forth from Florida to DC, there’s a sense of freedom that comes with going to a European city with no purpose other than to run away from home.

Portuguese Vegan Food - Not so Yummy

Now I’m sitting in a vegan restaurant I stumbled in to when my knee started to throb. The floor is a sea of Moroccan tile in blue and white – a checked pattern I vaguely remember seeing from a stoned trip in college.

Not sure what I ordered but some sort of fake beef with vegetables. My table is reserved which says reserved has a Moorish pattern running through the center. The Portuguese do a lot of stressed out wood. Looks cool but also perhaps a bit unnecessary in a country where atmosphere abounds. 

The service is relaxed, a pleasant change from at home where I often complain about being rushed. They don’t forget you but a woman alone is left to her own devices in a way I don’t mind.

 I drink Madeira wine at lunch. The walls are a blend of stucco, wood and distressed cabinets. The pictures on the wall show clearly that the artist is just learning how to paint with watercolors. 

The restaurant is filled with a British family and a large group of diverse women in their late teens or early twenties. The waiter is a gray and white haired version of what I now describe as the Portuguese male 5’9” who brings me a piping hot bowl of pea soup that is like murky glass on the surface with a dollop of fake cream in the middle. Best thing I ate. The fake meat which tastes pretty impossible is the consistency of Spam. I ask what it is made of and the waiter just shrugs.

Now I’m sitting in a vegan restaurant I stumbled in to when my knee started to throb. The floor is a sea of Moroccan tile in blue and white – a checked pattern I vaguely remember seeing from a stoned trip in college.

Not sure what I ordered but some sort of fake beef with vegetables. My table is reserved which says reserved has a Moorish pattern running through the center. The Portuguese do a lot of stressed out wood. Looks cool but also perhaps a bit unnecessary in a country where atmosphere abounds. 

The service is relaxed, a pleasant change from at home where I often complain about being rushed. They don’t forget you but a woman alone is left to her own devices in a way I don’t mind.

Alfama Cellars 

I walk into Alfama Cellars at about 5:00 PM, a tiny restaurant wedged between two other storefronts. My knees are in full mutiny and I must sit down to assuage them. The owner comes as I enter and is polite but firm, he is booked solid all evening. The room is empty. He says I have 45 minutes and I choose a table for two towards the back.

More distressed wood – this time its shelves and bottles of wine line them calling to me. The placemats and chairs are red, a welcomed contrast to the woodsy browns. The Portuguese are not rug people, most floors are bare save for a rag rug.

The olive oil even tastes rustic with a bit of earth in it The wine is good, rich and red, not quite the best I’ve ever had but up there. The first sip explodes jammy and happy in my mouth with such exuberance I know my tongue and teeth are turning red as I sip. The cheese is a menagerie of flavors and so creamy it literally melts in my mouth. I sit and I drink and I eat cheese and bread and heaven is on earth at that moment. The cheese is like sex when you are almost there and need just one more exquisite flavor.

The owner is a small rather rotund man who clearly is baffled by me alone in his place, but when I go back the next day and eat salt cod he is friendlier. Highly recommend this place. 

Another day I decide to eat just Portuguese peasant food and enter into it with the gusto of a native. The fish was so fresh but the sides were not very interesting. 

 The View from the Church

In Graca near to where I am staying is a view to die for from Lisbon Cathedral. A café springs from it along a stone wall with a panoramic view of Lisbon. From above you miss the small details that make Lisbon so intriguing like the clothes lines that dot the streets as they wend their way down each endless hill. My favorite was the one with women’s underpants, cotton, white in a straight line. 

The view is a mish mosh of stucco roofs like so many creatures stuck in time. The azure sky, sky, grey clouds hint of a storm. Missing the majesty of Paris or London, Lisbon is a city where normal people go. And many people were there in late October from all over the world.

 I should have learned a few words of Portuguese before I came but then I start speaking Spanish to a cabdriver and realize that this is all I need to communicate. While up near my apartment I hear Portuguese constantly, when I get stuck I switch to Spanish and it works. But the truth is they would prefer that you speak their language.

I walk up and follow the overlook. A Portuguese man with a high pitched voice more than a little off-key sings Abba’s Dancing Queen and I have to turn away so he does not see me laughing.

This is Lisbon, cigarettes, frying fish, endless blue water. 

Don’t Miss this Place

My last night I find Churrasco da Graca, a barbecue pace. Google which is working for now says it is a find, and it is. The place has its own ecosystem – working there Portuguese, Africans teasing each other. Since I cannot follow what they are saying in a blend of French, Spanish, Portuguese and yes an Italian word or tw

 

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The view from the church.

The view from the church.

Exploring the harbor from above.

Exploring the harbor from above.

At the market.

At the market.

There are Moments in Life When You Rethink Yours - My Solution is Travel More

How many times have you read or heard the statement “Live Life to the Fullest?” How many times have you vowed to do this and then forgotten about it after a few days? It’s like the consciousness raising services, EST in the 80s and the mindfulness of today. All of it is helpful to remind you of your importance and power but most of us sink back into our daily life and forget about our Aha moments.

This month I had a wake-up call. Three deaths in eight days. 

First my neighbor who had been sick for years but hung on past the point where we thought he was in immediate danger. 

Then my friend’s husband who had turned his life around multiple times ended up on a ventilator after a heart attack, and died the day before his daughter’s wedding. Finally two boys from a University of Maryland fraternity where my daughter goes to college who hydroplaned on a rainswept road in Ohio on the way back from a football game. 

As a girl who lost her mother at 13, for decades I did whatever I wanted because I always believed I would die young. So I travelled and spent and loved big and lost, knowing that no matter how little I had I could always make and find more. But as I got older and had children I began living for them, particularly when I had to raise them alone.

After I sent my youngest off to college and began to try to figure out what I was and where I had gone. I had trouble finding work, I was blue, I could not find anything that excited me except for men briefly shining, then snuffed out by me or them like a match.

After my neighbor’s funeral they had a lunch where those who knew him best got up and spoke of him. All the speakers talked about how happy he was with his job as an EMT, his family, his life.  His eldest son who is barely 30, came with his seven week old son who would never know his grandfather, spoke with candor and dignity about the man who went to every sporting event where he played and cheered above and beyond the call of parenthood. His younger son, who grew up with mine, spoke through his tears of a father who was always there for him and everyone else, how he was the go to man for moms in the neighborhood.

I went to bed for the rest of the day, and wasted more time. The memorial service for my friend’s husband was postponed.

A couple of days later my daughter called from college late at night terribly upset. One of the boys in Ohio had died instantly, another was probably paralyzed and the rest were in critical condition. She asked what she could do. I said bring food and just be there for them. We made over 100 brownies from my grandmother’s recipe which she said always made her feel better. The boys were surprised and rallied with a handful of smiles.

But the real lesson of the three deaths is that we need to live our lives to the fullest. Tell the people we love that we adore them. Get rid of those who only make us sad or angry. Find your path and stick to it.

I plan to spend the next two decades thriving on whatever path I set. How about you?



I Saw a Confederate Soldier Standing by a Grave

We meet on a dark corner in front of a candy store on Roanoke Island along the Outer Banks of North Carolina. Our spirit guide is Diane. She wears a long black dress, blonde hair hanging Barbie style below her shoulders. About a dozen of us have gathered, a handful of families with older kids, a posse of raucous twenty somethings, and a young couple who hold hands the entire time..

Roanoke Island has a long history of unsolved mysteries. Most famous for its “lost colony” of over 100 English settlers who vanished in the 1580s three years after Sir Walter Raleigh founded it. Raleigh had left to go obtain supplies and it took him several years to return. When Raleigh finally did go back the colony that he had left with 100 settlers had vanished without a trace. The “lost colony” remains one of the great unsolved mysteries of the colonial period.

Lost souls roam the island, Diane tells us by way of background. Many were victims of shipwrecks near its coast. Cape Hatteras forms a perfect storm close to the island where cold waters flo down the coast from the north collide with the warm Gulf Stream current coursing up from the tropics triggering sudden, violent storms. Boats often ran aground on the 20 miles of sandbars surrounding the island.

Diane tells us we must take at least three of every picture and snap as fast as we can because you never know when or where the ghosts will come. They are said to leave behind their energy, which is almost thermodynamic and allows them to show up in photos.

We are instructed to look for four different kinds of paranormal activity including:

Orbs – Tiny globes of light or streaks that move or look like skips. These are humans or animals that have died and are moving from one place to another.  

Ghosts – Usually in human form and make contact with humans they may speak, make noises, touch you, even emit a perfume odor. Experts say that many retain who they once were and can feel emotions.

Poltergeists – One of the rarest forms of haunting, a poltergeist can be constantly aggrieved or give off a strong smell such as rotten eggs. They can turn lights on and off, slam doors and even set fires.

Apparitions – You know something is there but are not sure what it is. On one tour, a Casper like creature followed the tour group around and they felt it’s presence but could not define it.

She takes us through darkened streets, past houses where no one lives except that there are windows ablaze with white light, even admits there is one she is afraid to go inside of. My photos show brilliant light even where windows were dark and a bonfire of guests who were not there replete with bright lines, squiggles, and other signs of paranormal activity.

Diane is so matter of fact about the spirits around us that one man starts giggling like a school girl, and takes a seat on a bench with a couple of friends letting us walk on ahead. Five minutes later he and I are standing in front of two graves in the local cemetery and I spy a Confederate soldier lounging between the two of them. He is wearing a brown fedora and what looks like street clothes which was common during the war after the south ran out of uniforms My photos are just red or white light and the ghost is not visible. Yet I saw him clearly through my camera lens and he is in the photos of the man standing next to me. What surprised me most is his saunter, the way he stood almost mocking me, yet there was energy between us.

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Touched by a Ghost in Charleston

Rhett Butler came from Charleston pops into my head as I walk down the well-lit street filled with the clean cut, neatly dressed, vibrant people on a comfortable early May night. The filthy rich southern scoundrel made his fortune profiteering off of goods and services during the Civil War, The mansions that Rhett could have lived in are carefully preserved in a city that welcomes over four million tourists annually.

In the Spring of 1670, 150 English colonists, indentured servants and slaves sailed into the Charleston harbor and decided to build a miniature of London which they called Charles Towne. Their vision was an aristocratic, English countryside inhabited by the landed gentry. The settlers were plagued by death and disease in the early years and many of them died leaving their ghosts adrift in the city

Our tour meets in front of a dingy bar and is small, about a half dozen people.  Our tour guide is young, male, a bit on the grungy side, a poet and a history teacher. He talks and talks and talks until my head is spinning with stories. Lost Revolutionary and Civil War soldiers, a woman left by her man who still wanders the streets, are just a couple of the stories he tells. Many buildings in Charleston are haunted dating back a couple of centuries. We begin walking to find them.

Charleston City Hall, located at 80 Broad Street, is said to be haunted by General P.G.T. Beauregard, a native of Louisiana and a general in the Confederate army charged with the city's defense during the attacks on Fort Sumter. Multiple guides, employees, and council men and women have reported seeing the general's ghost overlooking the city council chambers from a second-floor balcony. Pirates were imprisoned in a Guard House of the Provost Dungeon and died down there and are said to also haunt the city.

He takes us through a corridor where many people have reported being touched, even manhandled by ghosts but we see no signs of paranormal activity. He begins to sound like a low drone.

We stop in front of a tombstone in the Unitarian Church cemetery and our guide talks about who lies beneath so I duck behind them onto a bench to rest my sore tourist feet. At first, I think that whatever is touching my arms and shoulders are insects and I swat them away but they the have the persistence of mosquitos looking to suck out every last drop of blood. When I duck out of the tour a few minutes later I expect to be covered with but there is nothing. A couple of days later I realize my phantom mosquitos were likely a ghost touching me.

Searching for Ghosts and Vampires in the French Quarter

July in New Orleans is beyond hot, like walking through a bowl of soup that never cools down. My two teenaged children and I join a ghost tour in the French Quarter in front of another dingy bar. Also known as the Vieux Carré, The oldest neighborhood in the city of New Orleans. It was founded in 1718 by Jean-Baptiste Le Moyne de Bienville,, it is the oldest and most-visited neighborhood. Past the wild partiers on Bourbon Street, we see wrought-iron balconies on Spanish-inspired buildings, inhale the spicy significance of Creole cooking mixed with sweat and the lingering odor of stale beer.

The story that stays with me is that of the LaLaurie Mansion, or 1140 Royal Street which is rumored to be cursed and the centerpiece of a season on American Horror Story.  The back story of the haunted house is fascinating. The matriarch was a woman named Delphine who had several husbands, one who mysteriously died on a trip to Spain. Losing her third husband drove Delphine mad. Rumors spread that she was harming her slaves, and an incident in 1833 when a young slave within the household, Leia, fell to her death in the courtyard turned all eyes on Marie Delphine Macarty LaLaurie.

On the morning of April 10, 1834, a fire broke out at the luxurious house owned by Delphine LaLaurie. The fire not only destroyed part of the house, it also brought to light seven slaves who were starved, tortured and chained in the upper part of the building. Madame LaLaurie managed to escape the fray, but was reviled as a "monster," a "demon in the shape of a woman" and "fury itself escaped from hell." Many of the stories that are told about the LaLaurie Mansion involve slaves found after the fire and had medical experiments conducted on them. One slave was said to have had a hole drilled into his head, with a wooden spoon sticking out--an attempt to stir its brains. Another was found with its skin peeled back so sinew, bone and muscle was visible.

The three of us stand in front of the house, flesh crawling from the stories of torture, as we imagine the darkness within the house that caused its haunting. The tour continues and about halfway through the heat overtakes us and we head back to the airconditioned hotel room, and their addiction to the TV show Friends.